Ending the Epidemic I blame the Puritans for why most of us struggle with life-long guilt for feeling good–the kind of guilt that prevents you from investing time, energy, and money into yourself. I’d dare to say that it’s an epidemic, especially among womxn. Pleasures and self-indulgences come in many varieties: spiritual, sensual, sexual, emotional,Continue reading “Conditioning Your Brain for Pleasure”
Category Archives: Inner Work
More Self-Control? No Thanks!
Inner Demons? More Like Allies. The inner critic is sneaky, often mistaken as a voice of reason who knows what’s best for you. For a long time I was under the illusion that my own inner critic–the barrage of “shoulds” running through my head, covered in guilty sauce–was me. I identified with its thoughts, reactingContinue reading “More Self-Control? No Thanks!”
My Story
In my early 30s, I had two seemingly unrelated but very painful experiences that changed the course of my life. In the first downfall that spanned about a year, I entered into a depressive state with suicidal ideation. It felt sudden and unwarranted. I was six years into my dream career living in a beautifulContinue reading “My Story”
Hitting Play on Pleasure
2023 is the year of PLEASURE and PLAY. I’m talkin’ bout spicy, sensual, and particularly unproductive pleasure. The feel-good body-high that has no agenda. A magical carpet ride through your wildest fantasy. Because it’s time to de-shame the juice of pleasure and the “immaturity” of play. For a few years, I’ve been on a treasureContinue reading “Hitting Play on Pleasure”
Why Will Power is Your Flaky Friend
Undoing the Programming Here we go, another one! Y’all know I love taking aim at unchecked masculine ideals that cause unnecessary pain and frustration. Full disclosure, I have incredible will power and self-discipline. These strengths have gotten me through two college degrees, starting my own business, learning a foreign language, and much recognition and rewardContinue reading “Why Will Power is Your Flaky Friend”
The Body and Workaholic Women
Quiet Quitting There’s been a lot of chatter recently about “quiet quitting”–the act of putting in minimal effort and enthusiasm in one’s job. Whether these quiet quitters are readjusting their commitment to their jobs to healthier levels, or they’re apathetically disengaging, it’s not yet clear. I suspect it’s a combination of both. I commend andContinue reading “The Body and Workaholic Women”
Reclamation of Self
Wisdom in Your Flaws There’s a subtle but key difference between fixing yourself and returning to your wholeness. Healthy, sustainable inner work is about a radical reclamation of Self. Because beneath the icky parts that you try to fix, there is a true Self in its wholeness. Women have so much motivation to grow andContinue reading “Reclamation of Self”
Surrender
Practicing the art of surrender didn’t come easy for me for a long time. I insisted on being in control of every corner of my life–pouring hours into formatting and editing a report at work that literally only a few people laid eyes on, finishing term papers weeks in advance so I could meticulously checkContinue reading “Surrender”
Choosing to Drop In
Feminine flow energy is my jam. I write about it. I put my face on social media to ramble about it. I quit my job earlier this year to dedicate my fucking life to it. Because it has saved me, time and time again. I’m a left-brained, highly sensitive, neurodivergent-ish* millennial who was raised toContinue reading “Choosing to Drop In”
The Problem with Productivity
I take great delight in ripping apart widely-accepted values that literally every economist and “Gary from HR” would poop their pants over if they read this blog. And right now, I want to take aim at productivity. The word makes me want to crawl out of my skin. I say this as someone who sunkContinue reading “The Problem with Productivity”