Conditioning Your Brain for Pleasure

Ending the Epidemic I blame the Puritans for why most of us struggle with life-long guilt for feeling good–the kind of guilt that prevents you from investing time, energy, and money into yourself. I’d dare to say that it’s an epidemic, especially among womxn. Pleasures and self-indulgences come in many varieties: spiritual, sensual, sexual, emotional,Continue reading “Conditioning Your Brain for Pleasure”

More Self-Control? No Thanks!

Inner Demons? More Like Allies. The inner critic is sneaky, often mistaken as a voice of reason who knows what’s best for you. For a long time I was under the illusion that my own inner critic–the barrage of “shoulds” running through my head, covered in guilty sauce–was me. I identified with its thoughts, reactingContinue reading “More Self-Control? No Thanks!”

Hitting Play on Pleasure

2023 is the year of PLEASURE and PLAY. I’m talkin’ bout spicy, sensual, and particularly unproductive pleasure. The feel-good body-high that has no agenda. A magical carpet ride through your wildest fantasy. Because it’s time to de-shame the juice of pleasure and the “immaturity” of play. For a few years, I’ve been on a treasureContinue reading “Hitting Play on Pleasure”

Why Will Power is Your Flaky Friend

Undoing the Programming Here we go, another one! Y’all know I love taking aim at unchecked masculine ideals that cause unnecessary pain and frustration. Full disclosure, I have incredible will power and self-discipline. These strengths have gotten me through two college degrees, starting my own business, learning a foreign language, and much recognition and rewardContinue reading “Why Will Power is Your Flaky Friend”

The Body and Workaholic Women

Quiet Quitting There’s been a lot of chatter recently about “quiet quitting”–the act of putting in minimal effort and enthusiasm in one’s job. Whether these quiet quitters are readjusting their commitment to their jobs to healthier levels, or they’re apathetically disengaging, it’s not yet clear. I suspect it’s a combination of both. I commend andContinue reading “The Body and Workaholic Women”

Reclamation of Self

Wisdom in Your Flaws There’s a subtle but key difference between fixing yourself and returning to your wholeness. Healthy, sustainable inner work is about a radical reclamation of Self. Because beneath the icky parts that you try to fix, there is a true Self in its wholeness. Women have so much motivation to grow andContinue reading “Reclamation of Self”